Ali Mau is joined by Jill Goldson, family mediator and counsellor, runs The Family Matters Centre in Auckland to ask if taking a sabbatical from your marriage could help it out long term.
Heather is joined by relationship expert Jill Goldson on the polyamorous relationships and if they could work in our society. Listen Now
Jill Goldson gives her advice to listeners on The Rock regarding a love triangle. Advice: Stop the wedding and sort it out.
The thought of coming into unimaginable riches was on many minds this week, as we waited to hear the outcome of the enormous Lotto prize draw. It’s easy to assume that tens of millions would catapult us into heaven on earth; not just make the world go round, as the saying goes, but make it spin. So why does this … Read More
Here’s a scenario that may sound familiar: someone not generally considered to be in a position of power – a student, say, and female – propositions someone who technically does have power. A male lecturer, for example. The proposition? That he join her for a threesome somewhere exotic. She likes him and she wants to get to know him on … Read More
I have a client who has been struggling at the end of a long marriage. Recently, she came back to see me. In our discussions in the aftermath of her break up, she talked about how she felt nothing but pessimism and unworthiness. How she didn’t think there could ever be anyone else for her out there. In our latest … Read More
The mother-daughter relationship is especially complex: being mothered well, as with much of the roll of the dice in life, is a bit of a lottery. Some of us get lucky and some of us don’t. The myths and taboos about “dissing”, or naming difficulties with our mothers, only serve to isolate those women who have not been the beneficiaries … Read More
She was the chosen one. From 23 women, Fleur Verhoeven was selected by The Bachelor’s Jordan Mauger as his “true love”. But just 72 hours later, Verhoeven had been dumped. Relationship expert Jill Goldson shares some advice for those who are struggling in the aftermath of a break up – unexpected or otherwise. Reality TV heartbreaks raise issues about how … Read More
I can still vividly recall the searing sense of perplexed injustice, and lack of power, when my older cousin, aged 6, told me one Christmas, as I looked hopefully at his box of chocolates, “Ask, don’t get; don’t ask, don’t want”. Most of us have times when we find ourselves in what feels like the most impossible of situations, and … Read More
It is as true of life as it is of fiction: Nothing moves forward except through conflict. Or, to put it another way, conflict is the precursor to change. So the deal seems to be that if we want change, or if indeed change is upon us, conflict will be in the mix. As difficult as it is for any … Read More