When the going gets tough with our partner, one may want to try counseling. But quite possibly our significant other will shrink away from anything that could be seen as therapy, creating another disagreement. What happens when you know you love your partner but circumstances seem to be conspiring against you? All that dredging up from the past, all those … Read More
Not therapy per se, but a dispute resolution with a therapeutic outcome
When the going gets tough with our partner, one of us might want to try counselling but quite possibly our significant other will shrink away from anything that could be seen as therapy. Creating yet another disagreement. What happens when you know you love your partner but circumstances seem to be conspiring against you? All that dredging up from the … Read More
NZ Herald: How to deal with passive aggressive people
The angry smile, the quiet attack – we all know the personality type. But it takes a while – and often many sleepless nights – to work out that we have one in our midst. This individual might be a partner, a romantic interest, a social contact, a colleague, family member or friend – or maybe even ourselves. Often described … Read More
NZ Herald: How to get over heartbreak
So we’ve got through Valentines Day – a lot of my clients talk about the emotions this day triggers for them. Whilst it is the second most popular card sending day after Christmas – and many see it for the commercial rort it likely is, – the newly heartbroken may be excused for feeling that on that day Cupid threw … Read More
NZ Herald: What are the rules of cheating?
When I was five-years-old and at a birthday party my best friend ripped off more wrapping paper than allowed in pass-the-parcel and won the prize. The memory of my molten outrage at his cheating is still vivid. We are hard-wired to detect injustice – and that surge of outrage and pain is always so much worse when the cheater was … Read More
New Years Thoughts
What makes us happy is always a popular topic at this time of year and of course underpins all those New Years resolutions we traditionally make. A recent New Zealand survey (Grouse and Jose, Victoria University, Wellington) demonstrates that the majority of those surveyed considered family the most important reason to live. Relationships with friends and colleagues came next – … Read More
NZ Herald: How to deal with self-absorbed people
My sister-in-law is driving me crazy with her endless need to talk about herself. I am starting to feel like I don’t even exist when I have to relate to her and I am starting to feel very resentful that my life is apparently of no interest at all to her. I think many of us have been through an … Read More
NZ Herald: How to deal with rejection
Why do we feel so down when we get a whiff of rejection? We know in our hearts that we can’t like everyone who likes us – just as everyone we happen to like can’t like us. Remember those agonising days as a school child – cross-legged on the asphalt playground – when you were the last to be picked … Read More
Jill Goldson Awarded LEADR 2014 Practitioner Award
Jill was honoured and very proud to receive the LEADR 2014 Practitioner Award for her contribution to the professional development of others in Family Dispute Resolution. This award highlights Jill’s many years of not only working with families but also her commitment to helping other professionals build upon their existing skills with ongoing professional training, supervision and personalised coaching. Jill … Read More
Children often tell researchers they want a voice – not a choice
The clamour of the election is over and we are now heading towards summer – although it’s still a bit chilly out there – but the summery clothes are in the shops – and so are the Christmas decorations. All of which is a reminder to us all to think about holiday arrangements. This can be especially trying for separated … Read More