When clients are seeking understanding about why their relationship appears to be falling apart, one of the signposts can often be what previous generations have termed the “need to give and take”. It’s hardly outdated as a piece of advice, but has recently been elevated into a serious study, and become the subject of a popular book.
Adam Grant, academic and researcher at University of Pennsylvania, is the author of Give and take: A revolutionary approach to success. In his book he claims that people fall into one of three categories: Givers, Matchers and Takers. His book is essentially written for a business audience – but it also gives good insight into romantic relationships as well.