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A recent email to me from a young woman confided that she is driven crazy by intrusive thoughts of her partner’s ex and how she believes he must be comparing her. She went on to say that not only had she met his ex – and found her to be beautiful and accomplished – but that also at the start … Read More

When the going gets tough with our partner, one may want to try counseling. But quite possibly our significant other will shrink away from anything that could be seen as therapy, creating another disagreement. What happens when you know you love your partner but circumstances seem to be conspiring against you? All that dredging up from the past, all those … Read More

When the going gets tough with our partner, one of us might want to try counselling but quite possibly our significant other will shrink away from anything that could be seen as therapy. Creating yet  another disagreement. What happens when you know you love your partner but circumstances seem to be conspiring against you? All that dredging up from the … Read More

The angry smile, the quiet attack – we all know the personality type. But it takes a while – and often many sleepless nights – to work out that we have one in our midst. This individual might be a partner, a romantic interest, a social contact, a colleague, family member or friend – or maybe even ourselves. Often described … Read More

So we’ve got through Valentines Day – a lot of my clients talk about the emotions this day triggers for them. Whilst it is the second most popular card sending day after Christmas – and many see it for the commercial rort it likely is, – the newly heartbroken may be excused for feeling that on that day Cupid threw … Read More

When I was five-years-old and at a birthday party my best friend ripped off more wrapping paper than allowed in pass-the-parcel and won the prize. The memory of my molten outrage at his cheating is still vivid. We are hard-wired to detect injustice – and that surge of outrage and pain is always so much worse when the cheater was … Read More

My sister-in-law is driving me crazy with her endless need to talk about herself. I am starting to feel like I don’t even exist when I have to relate to her and I am starting to feel very resentful that my life is apparently of no interest at all to her. I think many of us have been through an … Read More

Why do we feel so down when we get a whiff of rejection? We know in our hearts that we can’t like everyone who likes us – just as everyone we happen to like can’t like us. Remember those agonising days as a school child – cross-legged on the asphalt playground – when you were the last to be picked … Read More