Heather talks with Jill Goldson, relationship counsellor, family mediator and Director of The Family Matters Centre on how to cope with being single after the break-up of a long term relationship.
It’s that time of the year when the spotlight is on relationships. Valentine’s Day has recently passed, while Leap Years always spark discussion around women proposing marriage. The topic of love lost and found is amplified through the airwaves, television, and the internet. Irish folklore says that one St Brigid of Kildare bitterly complained to St Patrick that women had … Read More
Often clients tell me they always seem to choose the same type of partner with similar and disastrous results. Of the many things that can wreak havoc in a relationship, considering the way we attach to those we love can create a focus and get rid of a lot of confusion. Attachment is the glue that keeps us together, as … Read More
Is there a difference between a break in a relationship and a break up? This is an often asked question in my counselling room, usually by the person who least wants a break. We all know what a “break up” means: it’s over, finished. Often heartbreaking and never easy but clear. A relationship “break”, on the other hand, can mean … Read More
When clients are seeking understanding about why their relationship appears to be falling apart, one of the signposts can often be what previous generations have termed the “need to give and take”. It’s hardly outdated as a piece of advice, but has recently been elevated into a serious study, and become the subject of a popular book. Adam Grant, academic … Read More
The journey from feeling offended to feeling aggrieved is alarmingly brief if the stakes are high enough. And if the source of grievance is in the family or at work, the proverbial stone in the shoe can become almost impossible to endure. Being told to “move on” or “be the bigger person” just doesn’t cut it and often makes the … Read More
Problems in life are relative, as we all know, and worries about how well a child has done in recent exams would be a comparative luxury for some of the parents who come to talk to me about their children. For Susanna getting her teenage son out of his bedroom, let alone to school, last term would have been a … Read More
A recent UK poll shows parents are struggling to get their kids off their computers, tablets and phones. Counsellor and family mediator Jill Goldson discusses how to get kids off their devices on Radio Live with Tony Murrell.
For two and a half decades Jill Goldson has been picking through the dramas of the families and couples who come to her for help. Over that time the Auckland counsellor and family mediator has identified four issues that come up again and again as a source of relationship friction: money, sex, parenting styles and the inlaws. But very recently, … Read More
Christmas Day can be a trying time for families. Duncan Garner talks with Jill Goldson, family and relationship counsellor with some great advice to help you survive Christmas Day.