The vast majority of conversations I have with my clients, and that’s hundreds of people every year, involve analysis of what other people think of them. Or what other people think about what they, the client, may be poised to do. Whether we’re talking about their desire to leave their partner, have an affair, or the fact they’re facing bankruptcy … Read More
Radio Live: Should you track your family?
Heather talks with Relationship Counsellor Jill Goldson on if you should really track your children on their phones for their safety. Listen Now
NZ Herald: How to navigate new tech with kids
A client in the science world once gave me the statistic that our brain has 100 billion neurons with a quadrillion connections to it. What’s even more amazing, they said, is that the human race struggles to fully understand even a single cell. All very mind-boggling, and yet it is also the backdrop against which we must continue to manage … Read More
Paul Henry: Are you a groundhog dater?
Jill Goldson talks to Paul Henry about groundhog dating (when someone dates the same type of person over and over and over again).
Story: Jill Goldson on what makes a marriage work
Jill Goldson talks to Kim Vinnell on Story about what makes a marriage work. You can watch Jill (at about 12 minutes and 45 seconds) here.
NZ Herald: Madonna caught in teen’s worst nightmare
What has been termed “Madonna’s bitter custody battle” regarding her 15-year-old son, Rocco, sounds like every teenage boy’s worst nightmare. No one ever said these type of conflicts are anything but excruciatingly painful for all caught up in them: Parents, children, siblings, grandparents. The intense emotion typically dissipates over time, but usually creates a lasting and significant impact for the … Read More
Radio Live: How to cope with being single after the break-up of a long term relationship
Heather talks with Jill Goldson, relationship counsellor, family mediator and Director of The Family Matters Centre on how to cope with being single after the break-up of a long term relationship.
NZ Herald: How to manage a break up
It’s that time of the year when the spotlight is on relationships. Valentine’s Day has recently passed, while Leap Years always spark discussion around women proposing marriage. The topic of love lost and found is amplified through the airwaves, television, and the internet. Irish folklore says that one St Brigid of Kildare bitterly complained to St Patrick that women had … Read More
NZ Herald: Why you keep dating the wrong person
Often clients tell me they always seem to choose the same type of partner with similar and disastrous results. Of the many things that can wreak havoc in a relationship, considering the way we attach to those we love can create a focus and get rid of a lot of confusion. Attachment is the glue that keeps us together, as … Read More
NZ Herald: When is ‘a break’ really a break up?
Is there a difference between a break in a relationship and a break up? This is an often asked question in my counselling room, usually by the person who least wants a break. We all know what a “break up” means: it’s over, finished. Often heartbreaking and never easy but clear. A relationship “break”, on the other hand, can mean … Read More